If someone is really harassing you, find an authority figure. This is building up others, proving expectations wrong and knowing your worth. How Do Mean Girls Get Mean? Clare Regelbrugge, University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign, Sign in to comment to your favorite stories, participate in your community and interact with your friends. This is doing everything boys can do, and doing it better too. If you are a girly girl, then you will come off as weak to some (sexist) people, which makes you an easy target. So, I’ve come to the conclusion that being a mean girl is a no-brainer. Something out of this world, mostly cute like a dress that will have the boy’s eyes glued to you. Don’t be mean 24/7, or else you’ll be looked at as a bully, not popular. These girls are going to be the hardest to stay consistent with. Being mean will only work if you're mature about it. What if somebody threatens to go to my principal? In 2005, a study was conducted of 115 people ages 21 to 35 who were either living with or had lived with a romantic partner. She'll have to do some work tonight and meet up tomorrow. But if you go too far, you'll sink too low and she'll be the better one. Instead of studying like I intended on doing today, I made a face mask for some reason and thought I'd share how I did. What if stidents go to the principal or a teacher? The ones that are cool, calm, and collected sneak right in, no questions asked --. This really irritates people. This is watching boys at track practice run shirtless on 90 degree days but being reprimanded by your coach when you choose to run in only a sports bra. For example, if someone accuses you of being mean, tell them “I’m not mean, I’m just standing up for myself. Nobody likes you and your tacky new haircut anyways." But if you're mature, assertive, honest, and don't suffer fools, that's something people will have a harder time finding fault with. How the term is used will ultimately be determined by personal preference. If you say, "You clearly didn't pass the test because your intelligence is below average" (while possibly true), the other is going to feel immediately wounded and probably retort with something to top you, something ridiculous, like "I'd rather not pass tests than have a face only a mother could love, like yours." Flirt. When being mean, don’t yell as it will make you seem aggressive. If they do start to get really irritated ("Are you being serious? This article has been viewed 370,807 times. Over the past few days, fans noticed a change in Swift's hair when she was accepting her win as Apple's songwriter of the year that was reminiscent of the "Red" era. Being independent, being alone, will strengthen you not to depend on others for their validation. If others give you a hard time, be ready with a biting insult. The first time I saw Mean Girls, I identified so much with Cady Heron. In addition to being nice to adults, show boys your flirty side rather than your mean one. This is putting up with abuse in a relationship because you don't want to upset such a violent person even more by breaking up with him. I bet it’s exhausting being a pushover all the time.” While you might be mean to your peers, be a good student and well-behaved in front of adults to keep them on your side, which will make your meanness even more frustrating for those your age. Only stick up when you have been hurt by someone; stand up for yourself and don't hold back. "), you may want to come around. If others give you a hard time, be ready with a biting insult. Others need to see that you can be a really sweet person when someone is deserving of it. Gretchen was telling you that Karen was getting totally fat. This is girls' nights in, supplying bobby pins for bad hair days, and complimenting other girls' eyebrows in the bathroom. This is being called a liar by your friends because a boy's reputation is more believable than your word. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Stop being friends. People will respect you for making that choice, and chances are, you'll still be popular, but in a better way. While joyful, the holiday season can also be stressful for many and that's A-O.K. You want them as a friend, not an enemy. Let's do it together.". If you can, just ignore her. Be tough at all times, or people will find your "meanness" fake. This is buying junk food and cheesy early 2000s movies for a friend who just went through a breakup, and this is breaking up with immature boys who still think snapbacks are cute when you know you deserve better. Although you will become popular with many, there will be people who will despise you for what you do. We use cookies to make wikiHow great. This might mean following current trends, but it also means starting your own. Tell them it was a momentary lapse. They also gossip, tell lies and ostracize other girls. If you treat them indifferently, you couldn't care less about their existence. Miami University. To the only member of my family who voted for Trump back in 2016, this one's for you…. Switch up your meanness with the occasional sweet moment -- it'll totally throw people off and it'll be fun watching their reactions. This holiday is known as a time for families to get together, to be thankful for the blessings in our lives, and to dig into a lot of very delicious food that you'll be having as leftovers for the next week. Get ready for people to be harsh to you back. Be nice to the few openly. This is being told you'll "never make it in politics" because of your gender. She’s Getting Payback (Your reaction) Thank you! If you were looking for a simple way to make a mask, I am happy to share how I personally make them. Those magic words "I'm sorry" keep Vintage girl from being able to go postal on you, even though you're probably so shocked and offended that she would even think about speaking to you! She manipulated people and didn't have any real friends. By using our site, you agree to our, {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/9e\/Be-a-Mean-Girl-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-a-Mean-Girl-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/9\/9e\/Be-a-Mean-Girl-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/aid2138955-v4-728px-Be-a-Mean-Girl-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":"728","bigHeight":"546","licensing":"